If you start meeting with someone, focus more on the “interests, hopes, and dreams”. Do not focus on occupation. Be vague about it until you get to know someone better. All relationship building is about trust and the more you reveal about the unimportant details of your life like location, job and so on, the more information you give to a person you shouldn’t trust who can use it to find out everything about you.
Spend as much time as you want chatting online. If you move to text or phone, remember that you’re giving your phone number away, a critical piece of safety information. Some women block the number so the recipient can’t see it. That’s just smart. If you text, you are extending a lot of trust credit to someone.
Remember: trust is like a credit card and if you extend too much too soon, you’re likely to get someone who will abuse and burn you. Trust is given in drops and lost in buckets. Make your potential partner earn every drop. Note that a lot of men online are married and looking for fun; some are picture collectors, some want phone/es*x; some want a real relationship. In my worthless opinion, for ever 100 contacts, perhaps 1 will be someone you like and who likes you back. There are four potential situations: you like them, they don’t like you; they like you but you don’t like them; you both don’t like each other; you both like each other. The most desirable outcome, you both like each other, happens the least by far.
Most men you meet are going to be interested in s*x. That doesn’t make them bad. It’s the way it is. You cannot judge them for that but you can judge them on how they act. If all they are after is s*x they will be pushing hard early for it, for n*des, for es*x, for meeting at a motel, etc. It’s okay to want s*x: we are sexual creatures. But if you are looking for a relationship make sure you investigate the man’s motives because if he just wants fast s*x, it will be apparent. In the old days when Craigslist still had Personals until the Republican FOSTA act put them out of business, “Casual Encounters” usually meant hookers; “Seeking Relationship” meant s*x right away and “Strictly Platonic” meant s*x after three dates. Being an expert at Craigslist in the old days, I can tell you this joke has a lot of truth to it.
GEMYM5
27 - Straight
Moscow , Russia
Apr 9, 2024 15:04
If you start meeting with someone, focus more on the “interests, hopes, and dreams”. Do not focus on occupation. Be vague about it until you get to know someone better. All relationship building is about trust and the more you reveal about the unimportant details of your life like location, job and so on, the more information you give to a person you shouldn’t trust who can use it to find out everything about you.
Spend as much time as you want chatting online. If you move to text or phone, remember that you’re giving your phone number away, a critical piece of safety information. Some women block the number so the recipient can’t see it. That’s just smart. If you text, you are extending a lot of trust credit to someone.
Remember: trust is like a credit card and if you extend too much too soon, you’re likely to get someone who will abuse and burn you. Trust is given in drops and lost in buckets. Make your potential partner earn every drop. Note that a lot of men online are married and looking for fun; some are picture collectors, some want phone/es*x; some want a real relationship. In my worthless opinion, for ever 100 contacts, perhaps 1 will be someone you like and who likes you back. There are four potential situations: you like them, they don’t like you; they like you but you don’t like them; you both don’t like each other; you both like each other. The most desirable outcome, you both like each other, happens the least by far.
Most men you meet are going to be interested in s*x. That doesn’t make them bad. It’s the way it is. You cannot judge them for that but you can judge them on how they act. If all they are after is s*x they will be pushing hard early for it, for n*des, for es*x, for meeting at a motel, etc. It’s okay to want s*x: we are sexual creatures. But if you are looking for a relationship make sure you investigate the man’s motives because if he just wants fast s*x, it will be apparent. In the old days when Craigslist still had Personals until the Republican FOSTA act put them out of business, “Casual Encounters” usually meant hookers; “Seeking Relationship” meant s*x right away and “Strictly Platonic” meant s*x after three dates. Being an expert at Craigslist in the old days, I can tell you this joke has a lot of truth to it.
Spend as much time as you want chatting online. If you move to text or phone, remember that you’re giving your phone number away, a critical piece of safety information. Some women block the number so the recipient can’t see it. That’s just smart. If you text, you are extending a lot of trust credit to someone.
Remember: trust is like a credit card and if you extend too much too soon, you’re likely to get someone who will abuse and burn you. Trust is given in drops and lost in buckets. Make your potential partner earn every drop. Note that a lot of men online are married and looking for fun; some are picture collectors, some want phone/es*x; some want a real relationship. In my worthless opinion, for ever 100 contacts, perhaps 1 will be someone you like and who likes you back. There are four potential situations: you like them, they don’t like you; they like you but you don’t like them; you both don’t like each other; you both like each other. The most desirable outcome, you both like each other, happens the least by far.
Most men you meet are going to be interested in s*x. That doesn’t make them bad. It’s the way it is. You cannot judge them for that but you can judge them on how they act. If all they are after is s*x they will be pushing hard early for it, for n*des, for es*x, for meeting at a motel, etc. It’s okay to want s*x: we are sexual creatures. But if you are looking for a relationship make sure you investigate the man’s motives because if he just wants fast s*x, it will be apparent. In the old days when Craigslist still had Personals until the Republican FOSTA act put them out of business, “Casual Encounters” usually meant hookers; “Seeking Relationship” meant s*x right away and “Strictly Platonic” meant s*x after three dates. Being an expert at Craigslist in the old days, I can tell you this joke has a lot of truth to it.
